Feminists have made ‘housewife’ a 4-letter word.
It doesn’t really matter your political party, age or gender, housewives are scoffed-at, derided and even considered selfish from all corners.
Coming from liberals it isn’t surprising, but this mentality is still present in the moderate and conservative parties. After decades of indoctrination, the prevalence of this mentality is present amongst virtually everyone under the age of 35.
Take for example this recent, deleted as of this publishing, Tweet by Pardes Seleh, a millennial active on social media and retweeted by a few high profile conservatives once in awhile:
She goes on to say “”but being a housewife IS considered work!!!” except it’s not work for money. if it was u would be more invested in the money u spend, just like if men spent more time at home with their kids and household chores they’d be more invested in their kids’ lives. can’t have both ways“
The context of the Tweet is the divorce between Jeff Bezos and his wife and that she has pledged to donate half of her multi-billion dollar fortune to charity.
The comments to the Tweet are actually somewhat reassuring–90% are aghast at her assertion that housewives don’t work for money and therefore shouldn’t be awarded 50% of the assets in the event of a divorce.
Divorce law, division of labor in households and selfish spending by a wife aside, let’s address the main assumptions of the argument: housewives (1) don’t work, (2) it’s the “husband’s money” and (3) most importantly, that because housewives don’t earn a paycheck the vocation itself is not of equal value to those that do earn a paycheck.
Housewives don’t work
An utterly ignorant statement that should normally not require refutation except that we live in 2019, so in the societal twilight zone we live in even the most basic of institutions must be explained, defended and upheld.
Let’s assume for a moment the context was exclusive to housewives that do not have children, is this statement true even then?
The practical answer: obviously they work. The home itself demands work to maintain, organize and beautify, not to mention the daily tasks of food preparation, shopping, financial management of all kinds and being the main point-of-contact for all home-related or family correspondence.
The cultural/existential answer: The work of housewives is integral to the family, community and world in ways we still cannot comprehend. She supports her husband in a multitude of ways, many of which allow him to pursue the career of his choice and provide for their family (even if only 2 people).
Add one child to all the above, and the work load explodes. Add two or more, and well, that’s why we call it a vocation. The term “job” is insufficient to describe the responsibility (the same goes for the father’s family responsibilities, of course).
It’s the husband’s money
Why are we so afraid of this terminology? Literally speaking, he earned it by working and receiving a paycheck. Do you personally know even one married man that refuses to share his earnings with his wife or family? Quite the opposite is true in fact, many men hand over the paycheck to the wife in complete trust that she’ll allot the money appropriately.
Ms. Seleh’s point was more related to divorce law in the sense that he earned the money, therefore the housewife shouldn’t automatically receive 50% upon a potential divorce. But I refuse to argue on these silly terms–it is indeed the husband’s money, but in reality it is earned BECAUSE of the wife and children, in support of them, their lives, activities and pleasure. This argument’s aim is to create competition between husband and wife, which is extraordinarily damaging to any marriage.
No paycheck? No value.
This is the most damaging insinuation in this discussion, because it supports the signature feminist agenda: devalue (destroy) the family and motherhood. It’s proved quite an effective political strategy don’t you think? By structuring your value system on utility (Marxism) or potential for wealth creation (capitalism), it’s an easy leap from there to scoffing at housewives.
But what is the real harm in valuing professions/vocations that receive a paycheck over those that don’t?
The real harm is that when we only value those professions/vocations that earn money, all the most important, worthy and selfless “jobs” are discarded: housewives, fatherhood, motherhood, priesthood, religious life, charitable organizations, volunteer organizations, etc.
Calm down, it isn’t a big deal.
It is a huge deal. Not necessarily Ms. Seleh’s Tweet, I don’t know her work at all and would love to just give her the benefit of the doubt that it was an offhand, ill-considered Tweet. But as stated earlier, the denigration of the stay-at-home wife and mother has reached an apex, and Tweets like this are simply proof of how far the feminist dogma of defeat-the-family, defeat-motherhood has permeated into our culture.